How to Handle a Heartbreak
Monday, May 30, 2016, ϟ 0 shout(s)
Hi & Assalaimualaikum :) (i think im free now suka hati lah format apa nak bagi salam huhu)
How to start eh adoi.........
I know how do you feel when the person you thought you could believe is actually a liar. You love him/her with all your heart but it ended up in a bad way. Maybe dia curang dan guna ayat skema "you deserve someone better than me" hahaha okay wow. But cmon guys, its not the end of the world pun. Believe me, ada sebab why that thing happened. There's reason why did you feel that way. There's reason why you are chosen to feel that way. Apa tunggu lagi ? Keep moving on and lemme show you how did i cope with the heartbroken.
*I dont know if it will help but inshaAllah, kalau sendiri ada niat memang nak move on, everything will get better and you will find what is the good behind the thing that you think was the worst.
Why do you cry ? Okay this was what i did before. Memang fitrahnya perempuan kalau sedih nangis, marah nangis, depress nangis, geram nangis. Lelaki pun boleh nangis hahaha serious, Just in my case i will only cry in front of you maybe 2-3 times in a year. And after i broke up pun, it was school holiday and no one see me cry. Oh yeeah, i cried in the bathroom, thats why. Back to the topic, kenapa perlu nangis ? For me, crying is one of the ways that you can released your sadness, the negative vibes in you and many more. Make sure, kau nangis kali ni memang bersungguh sungguh. Sebab apa ? This will be the last time you cry sebab benda macam ni. Make sure, THIS IS THE LAST TIME, NO MORE. Jangan bagi satu apa pun yang tinggal.
Maybe kau akan rasa macam "pehal do nak nangis, break je pun" ok ni terpulang untuk orang yang memang hati kental, atau dia ada pengganti pada keesokan harinya. Jangan simpan untuk di'burse'kan pada esok lusa tulat mahupun tahun depan. Cerita hari ni habis harini je. If you need a shoulder go for her/him, nangis depan dia.
Kau kena terima the fact that between you guys dah takde apa apa, nothing, fullstop. When you really feel sad, jangan tipu diri. Tak jijik pun kau sebab sedih, its normal. REDA. Tak semua orang boleh reda dengan mudah, tak sama sekali. Kalau dapat pun, it takes time. Kuncinya, sabar dalam reda. Take your time, but at the same time kena paksa diri juga.
As for me, lepas aku break, i only tengok phone 3 days after that. hambek ko. Kalau pegang phone pun tak on wifi or 3G. So, after 3 days baru buka gallery, delete pictures, block every social media. But some of people right after break masa tengah nangis tu lah dia delete and block. Tak kesahlah, janji korang buat. Kenapa perlu block & delete? This is important because you dont wanna be sad because of that kind of guy/girl lagi kan. Dont look at his/her face anymore, his/her sweet texts, you guys' songs and everything that will make you remember him. Takde faedahnya pun sekarang. Buat kau lagi sedih pedih medih adalah. Its not the time nak recall ke flashback ke apa. ITS OVER!!!! *emosi pulak i*
*Lepas dah block kau jangan pulak gatal gatal nak unblock lepastu tegur never please never.
To me, this way is really helping. Lagi lagi bila orang keliling pun helping. You got what i mean ? As for me, i asked many people around me about this, i told them what i felt. You feel really appreciated when they tell you that they will be there and you dont even need him. Kat sini kawan main peranan, youre at your lowest point, you know who are/is still there. Masa ni boleh nilai berapa ramai kawan yang kau ada. Tak dapat tolong banyak pun takpe, dapat dengar and lend her/his shoulder, thats enough. Besides, aku rasa best bila dapat advice from stranger even s/he didnt really clear about what happened, their general advice are always on point.
These are advices they gave me, it might make you think you have to move on, for your own sake.
Actually theres a lot tapi takkan nak letak semua kan hahahaha k. I think for this, most of you friends will help, inshaAllah Yang Satu tu pun bantu :)
Lastly, BE A BETTER PERSON
Do you wanna know why does ALLAH put you in this situation ? He want you to reflect yourself, betul ke apa yang kau buat ni ? Theres a lot of good things will come after what happened, believe me. One more thing, maybe He wanna show you apa yang kau perlu betulkan. Ok tak paham ? Let say masa kau dengan mamat tu dulu, you spent a lot of time with him, you put him as your priority and put your family second. Dulu tengah makan pun dok pandang phone sengih sengih reply whatsapp. This is the right time to correct the situation. Serve your perents, the wanna see you success in study, they wanna see you happy, not crying or getting sick for a guy. It not worth it.
Think, being single doesnt mean youre loser or tak laku or cantik. I do believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way. Semua orang ada value sendiri. Achieve your goals, serve your parent, go shopping, be beautiful for yourself, make yourself happy. Theres no benefit to think about him again. Hes nothing. Please have the perasaan serik, cukup sekali and no more. Prove to your ex and his new gf/bf (in case dia curang and has new gf/bf), your life is better now and youre better without him/her. Jangan lah dok post sedih sedih je, be happy, kau kena menang hahaha. Main psychology sikit. Kalau diorang tak kesah, lantaklah, at least youre happy for yourself :)
Oh ya, happy national single day! Dont sad being single c:
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